Is Assisted Living or a Care Home Right for My Elderly Relative?

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This is a difficult topic for most people. As time moves on, so do the generations and looking after your elders is a responsibility that should never be shrugged away. Your parents and other elderly relatives deserve the care and respect they had in their younger lives and having raised you, it is time for you to care for them.

There is no single way to age and there are many steps to go through before going to a care home. Talk about what you want and what our relative wants in a calm way before you get to the point of having to make decisions so that you can agree on a strategy early on and reduce your stress.


Increasing the Care You Give

Talking to elderly relatives on a regular basis is the best way to keep an eye on them. A Sunday lunch is a nice traditional way to gather the whole family together to discuss things and inviting the older generation is also a great way to make sure that they are eating properly.

You should also think about looking in on them a little more frequently. Sometimes, the symptoms of diseases like Alzheimer’s can creep up on people and you may not realize anything is wrong if you aren’t checking in regularly.

Assisted Living

Assisted living is a good way to balance the care your elderly relatives need without the expense of a care home. Assisted living often means that your relative has their own home within a complex and access to help should they need it.

Assisted living is ideal for adults who are vulnerable but are able to continue doing most things themselves. Plus, you can request that carers come in regularly to check up on things if you need. This is good if your relative is forgetting to take medications or needs help to get up and dressed in the morning.

Care Homes

You may read horror stories about care homes but these are, thankfully, the minority. With law firms such as working hard to penalize such institutions, you can rest easy that your own relative won’t be in danger.

When choosing a care home, think about what your relative’s requirements are. For example, some homes specialize in Alzheimer’s where others may be better for those with physical disabilities. You should also look at the rooms available and pay attention to the activities put on. Many homes offer a wide range of stimulating entertainment and have excellent food too.

Take a checklist of things you want to see such as a carer in every common room, a good smell (care homes should never smell of urine!) and friendly staff. You will likely get a good feeling about the home that is right for your relative, always go with your gut.

Making decisions for your parents is stressful because you have always looked to them to help make choices that are hard. We all want the best for the people who have always given so much for us. This is a difficult topic and if you can care for your family on your own do it. But, in special circumstances where your elder relatives need more care than you can provide, make sure to do your research and make the best decision for your loved ones. You know in your heart what is the right decision and taking this more gradual approach should help to get used to the new situation.

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